Three Hibiscus by Anne Collins
Surrendering to the Outcome
By Carmen
Earlier on in the year while I was in Australia, my family back home hit a sticky patch of
karma which resulted in lots of drama and ended up with Mika in hospital with suspected
appendicitis and then having her appendix removed. Up until that point I had seen my role
in the family as being the peace mediator which meant I wouldn't allow karma to play out
between family members if it was too negative or unpleasant. Of course, once I left, the
karma I had tried to squash leapt right up and caused those back home to face it head on.
My spouse was faced with challenges he had to deal with alone, being in a foreign country
and not understanding the doctors being one of them. Dealing with Mika's thirteen year
friend who refused to leave her bedside was another. The biggest part though was dealing
with the ancestral karma that he had with his daughter that had brought them both to this point.
Since I was so far away, I had to allow it to play out. It was difficult for me to watch things unfold and not be actively involved but this was my lesson, to step back and allow my
spouse and daughter to find a common ground.
As I flew home, I could not see my way to how and whether we would resolve the karma
between ancestries enough so that we could have harmony and peace in the family. I
could not see how we could move ahead without implementing many changes, beginning
with myself. Then I remembered Mila speaking about forgiving and loving bigger than we
know how and because I could not see how change could be achieved, whether the four
of us would be willing to change and to grow, I decided to open my heart and forgive and
love bigger than I knew how. I simply surrendered the outcome of how to the Earth Mother and the ancestors and simply blessed the family, over and over.
When I arrived home, Mika was already discharged from hospital. Interestingly enough, in
the short time she was in hospital and due to how much her father focused on clearing
the karma, they had reached a new understanding, enough that they could find their way
to a new, more honorable state of dealing with one another without my mediation. It was
Mika and I that had to work on a new way of relating as the dynamics had shifted between
us and the old no longer served.
For my part, part of changing meant speaking to Mika and her friend clearly and from the
heart, telling them why it was not acceptable for them to behave outside of true law by
disobeying and challenging our family rules. Instead of trying to control and muzzle them
and their behaviour, I had to explain why and what was expected. But I also had to bless
them and bless the script that caused them to believe their friendship was not acceptable
and that they had to form a united front against the world which was against them.
Since May I have had the opportunity to surrender the outcome a few more times and I
find it most helpful as often I cannot see all the ramifications of the decisions to be taken
and if I surrender how to the Earth Mother and the ancestors and allow them to guide my
way, then at least I know that the decision I eventually take is based on love and guidance
bigger than I know how. And now that we are able to call upon the Earth Mother as well as
the Earth Father for guidance, it can only result in a more complete experience.
Many blessings
Carmen
Carmen Escobar offers one to one ascension consultations in English and Spanish with a focus upon the inner family along with outer family issues and patterns. You can reach Carmen at shya@iinend.net
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