Raising Ascending Children

As individuals already from childhood and as a couple and eventually now as a family we have moved from town to town as well as from country to country quite often. We tend to be spontaneous and move quickly, our shortest time from deciding to leave to getting onto an aeroplane and flying to an unknown country is three weeks when we moved from New Zealand to Germany. We moved here 6 years ago and the children were 8 and 5 years old at the time. When we landed in Germany we could not speak a word of German. We decided to send the children to a German speaking Waldorf School as we had always resonated with their approach to educating children: where the heart, head and hands are engaged and not only the mind. It took the children two years to become fluent in German and to build up their social network. Everything sort of just “happened” without much “conscious” working with Earth.

Then the company closed its office in Frankfurt and relocated to Hamburg so we had to make a decision about transferring to Hamburg from Frankfurt. Initially the children were adamant that they were not leaving, they were quite happy for Billy to commute and to see him at weekends. We discussed moving for what seemed a period of weeks but what finally convinced them was that Lilliya mentioned that the move would be positive for them as they would be able to start anew and also that the land would support us more. As budding teenagers, the teachers and friends they had had for 6 years knew them as children, this was an opportunity to introduce themselves as teenagers, even with new names if they wanted and people would accept them as they didn’t have a prior image of who they were. And so they changed their minds and agreed to move to Hamburg with us.

We started earnestly in good 3D fashion, looking at schools, houses, crime rates, travel times, and so on. Our dream was to find a place near a school and near to the office but in the country near nature. There were only 5 schools that the children could attend though and all were full. Then one day a school in the south called and the teacher said he would taken our son and if he did that then the other teacher had to take our daughter. He also said he did not want an interview (the standard practice) and we should just come the first day of term. Based on research on the internet and on 3D information such as statistics, we though that the area in the south of Hamburg looked nice and the school looked lovely on their website.

However, work colleagues and even strangers such as taxi drivers were warning us not to move to the south because of transport problems, social problems unemployment and crime. We thought that all those things did not matter to us as ascending people so wanted to go ahead anyway. Then we decided one day to drive to have a look at the school and area and found that the school itself was alright but the area around it was not, it was in a dark dream. We spoke to Lilliya about it and she said the north was taking all the dream from the south and was transferring all the dark dream to the south. It would be much better for us to live in the light earth dream otherwise it would be very hard for us to do our ascension work.

By now we were running out of time as the schools were closing within four weeks and we still had to find a house as well. We found that we were simply unable to make the dream for a school and a house come together: all the other Waldorf schools were full, up to 40 children per class and there were no houses available to rent. Lilliya suggested we follow the advice that the Tree Kingdom had given her, which was to recast the dream for the school and not just our part in the school dream. In order to do this, we would have to be in the area and not 500 kilometres away, so we took the children out of school once more, drove to Hamburg and visited some parks near the schools and intended to recast the dream for a school and a house within cycling distance. It had taken a while for us to realize that we could not achieve it on our own, so we brought the children into the conscious dream weaving experience, and we intended together to find the best possible, gentle ascending dream for a school and a house to rent.

We then sent out forms to all the Waldorf schools in the greater area of Hamburg and contacted all the estate agents within the same area.

It was only a couple of days later that we received a telephone call from a teacher saying she had a class of 40 children but liked what she had read in Megan’s report card and was willing to take her into the class, also without an interview. Usually in Waldorf schools, they first interview the child and the parents and only then do they take a decision. Also if they take one child, they are obliged to take the siblings as well. Our problem was that this school was in the east of Hamburg, in a very well-to-do area and this would mean very expensive housing not to mention living in a suburb in a city and not in the countryside like we had envisaged. However, we decided to go with the flow and contacted the teacher and told her we would be happy to enroll Megan regardless of where we would find a house. But then Dylan’s future teacher insisted on meeting Dylan formally as it was the procedure to follow. Both teachers then agreed to meet us as a family to make it official. The meeting went well and all we had left to do was find a house. Again, going with the flow, we spent only a few hours looking and agreed to take the third house we saw which was curiously vacant after having been empty for five months already (unusual in Hamburg). We subsequently found out that it had been rented to a family living a few blocks away. They moved in one morning and whilst the husband was unpacking a box, he decided he no longer wanted to stay in the new house and promptly moved out, without even spending one night in the house. This meant that the landlord needed to find someone very quickly as he had already been without an income for many months. We were all suitably impressed with the power of intent when four work together.

So we ended up finding a house and a school the children can cycle to in 10 minutes. They have a choice of cycling through a large park or along the river to get to school. However, it was not the school nor the type of house we had envisaged in the 3D. And now, four months later, it is beginning to feel like home and we are slowly realizing that this is where we had to be, it truly was the best ascending dream for us in terms of school and home. We still have to work at keeping the light earth dream in the area but matters are improving all the time.

This experience has taught us that we need to work together to make intents that affect us as a family. We cannot adopt an adult-child role whereby they accompany us and we make the decisions. Unless we all pull in one direction, we remain in the middle of the pond and nobody goes anywhere. It also means that we share the responsibility and the results must be favorable to all concerned. I believe that an added plus is that as young as the children are at 13 and 11, they feel that they make a valuable contribution to the energy flow of the family and that they do have the ability to make change occur when they intend it so.

Many blessings

Carmen

I offer consultations in English and Spanish and if you wish to get in touch with me, I can be reached at: shya@iintend.net

Raising Ascending Children

by Carmen Escobar